March 29, 2019
The shoe that fits: Finding the right words as a trans person of colour
When Shubhechhya Bhattarai was in middle school, they heard the word transgender for the first time on National Geographic. It resonated immediately.
For the trans community, finding the right words to express identity can be challenging, especially for Bhattarai, who didn鈥檛 see themself represented in public spaces.
鈥淓ven after I knew I was transgender, it took a while to find words that fit because I didn鈥檛 see many trans people of colour like myself,鈥 says Bhattarai, fourth-year drama student and club executive of Queers on Campus.
鈥淯sing the wrong word feels like you鈥檙e wearing a shoe on the wrong foot 鈥 it鈥檚 uncomfortable and unnatural. When I first came out about five years ago, I came out as queer, but once I discovered the word transmasculine a few years ago, I really came into myself.鈥
Pronouns are a simple way to help create safe spaces
Although Bhattarai has found words that work, that doesn鈥檛 always translate to being accepted by others. To make everyday spaces more inclusive, they suggest pronouns as a simple first step.
While the idea may seem uncomfortable to some, Bhattarai points out that in addition to being inclusive of all gender identities, using pronouns is nowhere near the discomfort of being misgendered.
鈥淚t takes a blow to my confidence because it tells me I鈥檓 not being seen the way I want to be in the world,鈥 they say. 鈥淯sually I speak up if I鈥檓 misgendered, but if I鈥檓 not comfortable in a space or if I feel unsafe, it causes me a lot of anxiety.
鈥淎sking what someone鈥檚 pronouns are is a simple step that takes away assumptions. For me, it鈥檚 about being seen in a space and knowing I can express my authentic self.鈥
Art and faith aid transmasculine student in expressing identity
Originally from Nepal, Bhattarai has delved into faith to better understand their identity.
鈥淚 don鈥檛 fit in the binary model, so identifying through energies makes more sense to me,鈥 they explain. 鈥淚n Hindu faith, the body is the vehicle for the soul. I was assigned female at birth but have a masculine energy, meaning my body appears feminine but my soul is masculine. It took me a long time to express myself, but making connections between my different identities helped me find the language that works.鈥
Another avenue that has been instrumental for Bhattarai is the arts. 鈥淪ometimes I鈥檓 not as articulate vocally, but through poetry or performance arts, it just comes out,鈥 they say.
鈥淎 few years ago, I performed a monologue in Coming Out YYC. Putting myself out there on stage was scary 鈥 I was terrified to talk about my identity and I didn鈥檛 know how people would react, but it was a really powerful moment.鈥
With the on March 31, Bhattarai hopes to continue creating visibility for the trans community through art.
鈥淲e need to be willing to understand different perspectives, work collaboratively to be informed and make it easier for people to show up as they are,鈥 they say.
鈥淎s an artist, I try to create more visibility for trans people, especially trans folks of colour, so others can see my story and feel represented. When I share any part of myself, it鈥檚 with the hope that someone else will relate to it, whether that鈥檚 helping them describe what they鈥檙e experiencing, bridging gaps between people or challenging assumptions about what it means to be trans.鈥